Liza5326, weight loss can be a tough journey. Prior to undergoing the surgery were you given the opportunity to speak with a therapist and registered dietitian? If so, did you have ongoing care with them after the surgery? Are they people you can go back to? There is an emotional and behavioral component to weight loss especially when you have gastric bypass. Inherently you may know what to do, but perhaps you are struggling with the application of how to do it and reasons of why you deserve it. What do you want? Is it weight loss or something greater than just a number? You’ve already taken the first step. Keep moving forward.
Additionally, there might be a place somewhere deep down inside of you where you do not feel fulfilled in your life or in your livelihood. If you can get to the point of wanting to explore more of this, you will find out what it is. From this point you can begin to recognize what is your trigger for emotional eating and then begin to take more control over this aspect.
Having hope that you can gain control is the first step. Learning to love yourself for all that you are is very important here. If you can truly learn to love YOU, and that is every part of yourself, you will begin to move in the direction that brings you to better control. That is the 2nd step. From there you could develop the habit of always doing what is best for yourself because you would never want to harm yourself intentionally. That is the 3rd step and really what is needed to be utilized each day for maintaining a healthful and balanced intake every day.
Let me know if this makes sense to you Liza5326. I am very curious to hear if I have suggested the right route for your recovery.