Coping with Miscarriage & Life’s Other Crap
Bethenny Frankel’s Miscarriage Reveals Lessons on Coping with Emotional Trauma
Recently on her new show "Bethenny," reality TV star turned talk show host Bethenny Frankel spoke publicly of the trial of her miscarriage. She said that sharing her story and hearing from other women who understood the pain from their own encounters with miscarriage did the most to soften the blow. Our experts weigh in, explaining that this is an important lesson for anyone experiencing emotional trauma.
With Bethenny on the show was Dr. Roshini Raj, a well-known physician. Frankel went into detail about the kind of devastation she and her husband, Jason Hoppy, endured. Frankel said the pain was made worse by the fact that she found out it was going to be a girl and had pictured the baby playing with her first born daughter. She reflected on times in the past she had offered condolences to female friends of hers having gone through miscarriage. Now she knows, she said, that only after having gone through it herself can she express to others real sympathy and understanding.
Like many women, Frankel at first blamed herself and felt like she had failed at something, which Dr. Raj immediately dispelled. Frankel said she knew her age made her high risk—she is 41 and was eight weeks pregnant when she miscarried. Frankel remains optimistic but said that she is unlikely to continue trying.
Miscarriage, something that affects millions of women, is still a somewhat taboo topic and women who miscarry often suffer in silence; but, as Frankel attested, sharing with others can be a significant part of emotional recovery. As ChickRx expert Daniela Tempesta, LCSW, a San Francisco-based psychotherapist explains, “Sharing your experience is an essential part of healing. When we talk with others who have had similar experiences we feel much less alone with our pain and our feelings of fear and shame are decreased. Furthermore, we can begin to feel hopeful about our ability to recover by hearing about the successes of those who have shared our struggle. This is why support groups or group therapy can be a particularly useful tool for processing emotional traumas."
Sharing when you’re going through difficult experiences, whether with friends, family, health experts, or in supportive online communities can be an important part of the healing process. We encourage you to use ChickRx to share and connect with experts and other women—and you can always do so anonymously (by asking questions and submitting answers and comments “secretly”).
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